Being a Friend

Have you ever known someone that everyone seems to want for a friend? Everywhere they go, the people they meet just want to be around them. In fact, it seems like they never meet anyone who doesn’t like them. It kind of bugs you, doesn’t it, because it doesn’t seem like real life. Yet, you secretly want to be that person, don’t you? Well, in order to have a lot of friends, you have to be one yourself. So, here’s how to do it.

Let’s start with your attitude. Are you someone who believes in serving others, or being served by others? Popular people have a giving attitude. They just naturally try to help wherever they are needed. They live by the Golden Rule, you know, “Treat others the way that you want to be treated.” They love others in the same way that they love themselves. As a result, their peers like to be around them.

What about your language? Do you say nice things . . . all the time . . . to everyone? Or, do you complain about certain kids, about the way they act or look? Are the words you use when you are alone with your pals as clean as the ones you use when around adults? Are the things that you talk about positive and constructive, or are they negative and destructive? Does your speech show respect for others? Don’t give your classmates and playmates a reason to be embarrassed.

How about the way that you appear to others? Are you clean and nicely dressed? Do you walk with your chin up, or do you look down a lot? Are you cheerful in the way that you talk, or do you sound moody or depressed? Your peers will most likely want to be around you if you make them feel good.

How about what’s deep in your heart? The things that are really important to you are the things that you will think about, and the things that you think about are the things that you are going to talk about. When your friends look at you, do they see a genuinely happy and upbeat person, or do they see darkness in your soul?

Let’s look at it this way. When God created you, He meant for your heart to be full of love and life. But, because of sin (the wrong things that you do), some of the bad things mentioned above have crept in and stolen your joy. However, God made a way for that joy to be put back into your heart. All you have to do is ask God’s son, Jesus Christ, to come into your heart. What actually happens when you do that is the Holy Spirit comes inside of you. That can happen because a spirit can go anywhere. Once the Holy Spirit comes into your heart, you have joy again, you have God showing you step-by-step what to do with your life, you are forgiven for your sins, and you are promised that you will go to heaven when you die. Furthermore, you will probably have a lot more friends. To find out more about asking Jesus to come into your heart, go to the menu on the left side of this page and click on “Ask Jesus In.”

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