How Do I Handle Hurt Feelings?
As long as there are people, there will be hurt feelings. It is inevitable that, as we work and play and interact with each other, someone will do or say something that is hurtful to someone else. It’s just part of being imperfect.
The most important thing to remember is to think about what is going on with the other person. Did something happen to make her angry, depressed, or simply in a bad mood? How does he seem to feel about himself on a regular basis?
Often, it is just something that will blow over in a day - or less. But, sometimes people hurt others because they really feel that way about themselves. If they think of themselves as stupid, they might call someone else stupid. If they can’t afford nice clothing, they might make fun of someone else’s clothing. So, what do you do about it?
First of all, don’t take it to heart. What someone else says or does that hurts you is not going to ruin your life. So, just let it go and forget about it.
Second, how about reaching out to that person? It has been said that an enemy is a friend who needs to be loved. Maybe if you are the one who makes friends with the hurtful person, you will soon have a new friend. If you help him feel better about himself, maybe he’ll be nicer to people. If you are forgiving toward her, maybe she will feel loved for the first time.
Perhaps the thing that will help the most is doing what Jesus Christ taught us to do when he said to treat others the way that we want to be treated. If everyone would do that, no one’s feelings would get hurt.
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